The Importance of Being You



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“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.

I love this quote as it tells us that the path we choose or who we want to be in this complicated world is up to us.

It is up to us to decide who we want to be in the world where people try so hard to copy those they feel will be better liked or loved. I think that is so sad as we need to start feeling happier with who we are and should be proud to show it off.

God created each one of us in a unique way. In a world where racism and multiculturalism are so prominent, I think accepting our uniqueness is a gift. In this fast-growing world where there is so much jealousy about another person’s looks, career etc, it is very difficult to just be ourselves.

I am an Indian and  proud of my heritage. I have my uniqueness which stands out even though there are many around me who might not like it. I believe I am unique as I do things differently to others. I am not a people-pleaser and I stand up for my beliefs. I know that does not go very well with many people who might think I am proud. But it’s not pride – just loving my God-given uniqueness.

When I was growing up, I always felt that my skin was too dark, and I wanted to be fair like my other friends in school.  I was so obsessed that I used to try out all the lovely creams that were available in the market. These days it’s hard to believe I was so obsessed with having fair skin.

When I fell in love and got married to my husband, Julian, one of the first things he said to me was how beautiful my skin was. I stopped being  ashamed or obsessed with daubing myself with fairness cream.

Another thing I was so worried about when I was younger was my nose. I thought it was too big and that all the others around me had a good-looking nose. I think how much importance I had given to looks back then, when all I had to do was love myself and my quirks, as God created me in this unique way as he wanted me to stand out among all the others. I realise that now, but it was something I had to learn as I grew and matured.

Now I am happy with how I look and have accepted that I am unique. Being unique is a wonderful feeling, especially when you think of the world in which we live where so many individuals struggle to be themselves.

So, remember whatever flaws or quirks you have, be proud of who and what you are, as God created you this way for a reason and you are beautiful and unique in this world.

“Don’t dilute yourself for any person or any reason. You are enough! Be unapologetically you” – Steve Maraboli

The Rev Shirley Murphy
Chaplain to the Bishop of St Davids
Assistant DDO
Clerical Secretary
Interfaith Officer of Diocese of St Davids
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Kitty Parsons

Kitty has forgotten how long she has been here now but she loves Pembrokeshire for its beauty and it's people. She spends her time searching out stories for, swimming in the sea , drawing and painting as Snorkelfish and eating cake. She says " has been an opportunity to celebrate this beautiful county and its people. Keep the stories coming. We love to hear from you."

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